Charity work is always good work, right? Serving others is always noble, necessary and is an uplifting experience for both parties, true? I believe most people would agree with these statements…unless of course they had read the soon to be released book, “Toxic Charity”, by Robert D. Lupton.
Just reading a few of the excerpts from this book made me wince as I recognized myself and some of my actions from the past. Granted, there is no such thing as a perfect mission and there is always a blend of good along with unintentional bad effects left by our presence. All too often though, we are more arrogant than we think and lack a sufficient level of self-awareness.
A friend of mine relayed a story to me about their church’s visit to Haiti. A group of them, when they first arrived in Haiti, right away noticed that so many babies were wrapped in filthy rags and in some cases, old newspaper. This scene broke their hearts and they felt strongly compelled to do something.
Before their second trip back to Haiti, this group of missionaries, having remembered these poor babies, brought a long enough brand new baby blankets for each of the infants in the area they were serving. Each baby boy would get a blue blanket and there was pink blanket for each little girl. The missionary’s hearts were warmed by the knowledge that they would bring happiness to the children as well as the mothers. No longer would the babies have to be wrapped in rags and newspapers. They delivered the blankets, which were received with much thanks and the group returned to their hotel (that’s another story), knowing with certainty that they had done good. Everyone wins, right?
The following day, the missionaries returned expecting to see these precious little babies in their brand new blankets! They were horrified to see the babies swaddled in the same old rags!! This was nothing compared to the anger that boiled up within them when they saw their new blankets being sold at the market down the street. They considered the Haitian mothers to be ungrateful, uncaring and opportunistic mothers. For shame! The group left the next day with the positive glow and spring in their step dashed. Their pride had turned to anger and resentment. How could this have happened?
What the group didn’t know then was that the blankets were being sold at the market, not for greed but in order to obtain enough money to for the mothers to feed themselves and their families. If the missionaries had taken the time to ask questions, to find out the “why”, things would have gone better for all involved. They failed to understand that the most immediate need was one of survival, not comfort or style. Unfortunately, the missionaries were perceived as being arrogant and clueless and the missionaries themselves grew disillusioned and demoralized.
I look forward to reading “Toxic Charity” in its entirety upon its release. Here is the publisher’s description of the book:
Public service is a way of life for Americans; giving is a part of our national character. But compassionate instincts and generous spirits aren’t enough, says veteran urban activist Robert D. Lupton. In this groundbreaking guide, he reveals the disturbing truth about charity: all too much of it has become toxic, devastating to the very people it’s meant to help.
In his four decades of urban ministry, Lupton has experienced firsthand how our good intentions can have unintended, dire consequences. Our free food and clothing distribution encourages ever-growing handout lines, diminishing the dignity of the poor while increasing their dependency. We converge on inner-city neighborhoods to plant flowers and pick up trash, battering the pride of residents who have the capacity (and responsibility) to beautify their own environment. We fly off on mission trips to poverty-stricken villages, hearts full of pity and suitcases bulging with giveaways—trips that one Nicaraguan leader describes as effective only in “turning my people into beggars.”
In Toxic Charity, Lupton urges individuals, churches, and organizations to step away from these spontaneous, often destructive acts of compassion toward thoughtful paths to community development. He delivers proven strategies for moving from toxic charity to transformative charity.
Proposing a powerful “Oath for Compassionate Service” and spotlighting real-life examples of people serving not just with their hearts but with proven strategies and tested tactics, Lupton offers all the tools and inspiration we need to develop healthy, community-driven programs that produce deep, measurable, and lasting change. Everyone who volunteers or donates to charity needs to wrestle with this book.
by Chuck Mulhern
26 Sep 2011 at 21:21
I have enjoyed some of Robert Luptons writing in the past. This sounds interesting. I intend to look for a copy and carry it with me this week to Peru for reading. The short passage quoted is ‘down to the bone’ honesty in how many charities operate. If it is not an in depth look at the problem and a long range plan for a self sustaining solution, stay home. Instead of using your money to buy “blankets” which only make “you” feel good, put your funds into a program that will sustain the community into the future. No more “Cowboy Medicine”. ‘Knee jerk’ reaction to a disaster, such as Haiti’s earthquake, is needed. It gets the ball rolling and starts the process of assistance. But eventually first aid must advance to a recovery and rebuilding mode, and hopefully to a change in the standard of living. Many charities are doing tremendous work in Haiti, and I commend them for their tireless work and effort. It is not easy and the rewards are small, but they can be life altering for those who serve and for those who are served.
by Peggy Finston MD
26 Sep 2011 at 21:55
Thank you for your comment and “head’s-up” about what sounds like one courageous book, Toxic Charity. Our cultural sensibilities about how we can help others seem to have fallen off the track of common sense. This goes for Charity, Education, and Healthcare.
The implicit rules appear to have become: “More is always Better,” “Possessing something is always superior to developing the skills to acquire it,” and “Making things happen sooner is always better than allowing whatever is to evolve.”
As a psychiatrist, I am puzzled by how guilty we feel about our relative, material “wealth” and how convinced we are that this is the magic, missing ingredient for happiness. Given this viewpoint, it’s no wonder we have trouble evaluating what others with ” less” really need. How can we when we are so unhappy ourselves and explain this away as a “bad economy?”
Just a few weeks ago, a woman told me she would never want to live in a “poor” country because she would feel so uncomfortable about what she has. My comment was how happy some people seem to be with much less in certain other countries. Maybe we are the poor ones. What do they have that (that we don’t) which makes smile the default facial expression, singing and dancing a frequent spontaneous public activity, enduring relationships with extended family and others outside their generation, and so on.
I just finished working at a public clinic for low income people. Here
a few mothers became irate when I would not prescribe stimulants for their children because they either did not need them or the medications would likely do harm. The Director’s explanation was that the parents likely hoped that the prescription would result in their child’s diagnosis and ultimately a disability check. Then he invited me to look at this as “equalizing previous wrongs.”
He did not seem embarrassed about his suggestion.
This is just one example of how misguided and even destructive our “help” has become.
We might get smarter about Charity and other issues if we could cultivate some humility about what we know and what we have. We surely don’t have all the answers. Look at the default facial expressions of strangers on our street corners, especially the wealthy ones.
We are not smiling. What can we learn from those we give to?
Peggy Finston MD
by pramod
27 Sep 2011 at 02:15
thank you
i appriciate your case study
by D.K.Nayak
27 Sep 2011 at 03:06
Thank you for the couregious and inspiring notes I enjoyed it I think more charitable organisation sould read every article sent by you,which is widely full of source of charity knowledge.
by phyllis muthee
27 Sep 2011 at 03:20
I totally agree with you …There is a pride in serving and its better to give than to be given. Most of us do not know how to reciprocate and for sure it makes the involved party in a very dilemma situation since in any contractual meeting virtue of mutual is virtue and it breaches the whole thing when one obliged party do not fulfill the expected and leave the other party with frustrations and end up with diverse in quotes “psychotic” dilemmas….its good to give and its also good to be given…..its a two way…the joy of giving has overthrown my life that i have been serving until i forgot my soul, mind and heart…..i had to be taught some lessons on how to love myself by being struck with several occasions of illness and while i was in the HOSPITAL BED…i decided to explore myself and i discovered myself as a very beautiful, intelligent,sound mind and talented human being whom i forgot in the name of serving people who do not appreciate……Likely God saved my life and i am really enjoying myself and thanking God for my health, being and even soul……..i will continue serving, but i shall acquit myself with the level of people we have same mind so that i can have sense of growth or appreciation….as a young son….who says thank you every time the dad gives a gift…….i will be more motivated and desire to rise in high heights in life…by being whom God had created me to be……..Phyllis Muthee….
by Rev.Alfonso Soquena
27 Sep 2011 at 04:19
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by Elizabeth
27 Sep 2011 at 05:25
GOD bless u all for the good work you are doing for others though reward is small just count yourself blessed coz u are not suffering like they are. I think its better to send the funds to the charity groups that are already working in the community for they know well what the community need are blankets may be a want after food need is met and you’ll not considered the Haitian mothers or any other mother in such a position to be ungrateful, uncaring and opportunistic mothers.
I love u all
by Katrina Evangeline Isaac
27 Sep 2011 at 11:52
I am looking forward to have a copy of the book “Toxic Charity” by Robert D. Lupton and read it. Sounds educational and interesting, it might be of help in my future endeavor. Thanks.
by Mark
27 Sep 2011 at 13:48
Its so interesting to have such information from Robert D Lupton,and it so educative especially we Volunteers it we help us to become successful and strong people in our nation PS:we young men from developing countries.thanks for such afab work your doing.
by Isaac
27 Sep 2011 at 17:15
I concur with the author is right. Gone are the philanthropic models that turn the community into vicious cycle of poverty. Now the organizations are adopting hybrid models where the community is trained how to fish themselves and solve their social problems and the projects are self sustainable for long time. Am willing to share some of this models if anyone is interested.I am implementing it and it is working. It is great Steven that you have brought this out clearly.
Isaac
RWI Kenya Program
by Joseph Wiah
27 Sep 2011 at 19:04
I am interesting to work with this team in Liberia as dispenser. This is my contact information tjosephwiah@gmail.com , cell #: +2315411653 and I hope to hearing from you soon.
Thanks,
Joseph Tolbert Wiah
by GILBERT MAYAKA
28 Sep 2011 at 05:24
I am greatful for this ministry to the poor people I will be happy to work with you in Kenya,East Africa. Thanks in advace.
by Usha
28 Sep 2011 at 11:50
Please contact me im glade to be a volunteer. +639 229599192
by eric
28 Sep 2011 at 11:58
looking forward to having a copy of this……..
thanks.
by suvarnaraju
29 Sep 2011 at 05:18
thanks for yours heard worker for gods kingdom
by olung ronald
29 Sep 2011 at 14:29
I agreed by Robert D Lupton statement,it is true,we love to have a copy of Toxic chairity book when released.
The misused of those given Blankets to the children of Haitian is refer ed to an individuals, churches and organizations who have no good vision for their communities.This can be refered to the three personalities in the Bible who were given Money by Jesus,but when Jesus come to see how they have used it only two people out of three had made an intrest and were rewarded double for their success ,the one who misused or kept unused was not rewarded,instead all that was given to him was collected and given to others who can use for the benefit of the communities.
Hence,one whom Jesus withdrew Money from had no driven programs for his people and he is very SELFISH person,but the other two had vision and programs which is a community based ,long lasting and sustaining.
May good Lord bless you for the work you are doing for the Nation.
by Abdul Mobin Khan
29 Sep 2011 at 18:17
Social work is the great job for humanity .I am a social worker in the field of education,remove poverty,health assistance,water ,sanitation, in my country Nepal, it will be my pleasure to share Toxic charity.
by sunil
30 Sep 2011 at 05:59
we have a charity mission and we do lots of charity works but still we have no fund to do that how to arrange fund for charity missions
by NGREMALE
30 Sep 2011 at 19:03
Please contact me im glade to be a voluntee 00 236 77 30 78 56
by Cecily Karimi
01 Oct 2011 at 09:12
That very true i agree with the writer on the Toxic charity
The charitable organization should solve the problem from grass root
by Joyce
01 Oct 2011 at 11:51
Looking forward to reading a copy of this.Be blest.
by Daniel
02 Oct 2011 at 06:07
Thank you for your encouraging and an eye opening text.i totally agree with the writer and hope all those who read it will participate in transforming charity work to more sustaining in the targeted areas mostly Africa.
people may need shoes but they can tie the laces themselves!
by BISHOP PAUL KIRUI
06 Oct 2011 at 07:18
iam happy to wrk with you and i really love what you do
thank you